Does it ever seem like you’re the only one who isn’t interested in meaningless, casual sex?Did you try Tinder for a couple days before realizing you really don’t want to show up at a strange guy’s place at 2am, have sex, and then leave, never to speak to him again? Hookup culture has made dating harder for everyone.Is it words, actions, gifts of affection and affirmation? Isn't it obvious I like her by the fact that I can't help keep my hands off her?! Many men will answer under the gun but it might not be the authentic and sincere response you're hoping for.All of these can be important and nurturing qualities in new and lasting relationships. Also, different people communicate their affections in different ways.Don’t put yourself in situations where you will have to dodge his sexual advances. After a few drinks, hooking up doesn’t seem like such a bad idea.But if you know you’ll regret it the next day, maybe keeping a few of those inhibitions intact would be a wise decision. If it’s acceptable for guys to blatantly say they only want sex, then it’s also acceptable for you to say you don’t.To me, it sounds like you're looking for some signs of affirmation from your guy.This is healthy and valuable insight that you might not be getting what you need from him or that you're worried he's only using you for sex.
There’s nothing wrong with looking good, or with appreciating that trait in someone else.The man in me wants to simply say, “Ask him,” but I also know that any man presented with that question does an internal, “Oh crap, this must be a trick question... While frequent sex is a clear indication of your man's physical interest in you, gauging his other interests/intentions require paying attention to his actions of affection. Answering these questions can give you clues as to how much your lover might be thinking or caring about you beyond the sexual.Depending on how new your relationship is, the extent to these affectionate efforts might differ. You might find that the most important indicator that he's thinking about, or likes you, is that he pays attention to your preferences and makes deliberate attempts to connect with you on that level.Okay, let’s face it, the majority of Tinder users are on the app for one reason and one reason alone – to get laid! Let's put a huge-ass spotlight on the elephant in the room.But here’s the real question – is simply wanting to get laid such a bad thing?But if that’s not accompanied by a deeper reason for attraction, you may be headed for disappointment.