I asked her one question, and the response I received was pure gold. When you’ve got a bunch of emails to choose from, it’s pretty hard to select one that, in the one moment it has to advertise, offers only the word “(none)”. So, generally I’ll go back and find their original message, reread their new message, look at their profile, and decide whether to respond. I actually think it’s not a bad idea to send two emails to everyone you write, if you feel like spending that sort of time on Internet dating, and don’t mind veering dangerous close to serial killer zone.
You may think this applies only to men looking for women, or folks trying to attract someone a bit out of their league – but that isn’t so. Most captivating subject line in that assortment goes to…the guy who wrote “86”, I guess? I’ve just gone from spending 10-30 seconds on your email and probably not even looking at your profile to a few minutes thinking about you. But you gotta handle the second email just right (for suggestions, follow the link). A third email is a little too Bates Motel for Olivia’s tastes.
In parenthesis I will notate my line of thinking for each remark I make.
Subject: We may have a problem here (This subject line ignites interest and curiosity, and it stands out from the other emails in her inbox.) Body: “Just a wink?
The internet is still abuzz from INAM’s shocking expose, Match From a Hot Girl’s Perspective. Here’s Olivia’s suggestion: I honestly don’t mind when someone emails me twice.
In fact, just today it was reposted on the Huffington Post! In fact, I probably respond to more second emails than first emails.
If you’re match isn’t interested, they either won’t respond or will send you a polite ‘Thanks, but no thanks.’ You can’t take it too personally – she or he hasn’t met you in the flesh! The key is to be open and friendly while still maintaining a bit of mystery.
Share enough to excite and intrigue your potential match, while leaving them wanting more.
Follow this rule of thumb: keep profile answers concise and fun.
I don’t actually know “How to Write the Perfect First Message”, and since I’m being honest, the title of this post is mostly for SEO reasons.
I need this, no, WE need this to be a PSA for guys of the internet who are doing online dating, on how to send a first message.