My friend P (and no, her real name is not just a letter but if you're friends with P, then you're friends with me) put it best.
I'd just gone through a particularly harrowing breakup (it involved the bitter division of Wesley Snipes film bootlegs on VHS, to provide both historical and raw emotional context).If a guy gave you a mix CD of Radiohead songs because it felt like giving you "a pint of his own blood," and then he gave girl a pint of his own blood, it sort of cheapens the gesture. I know guys who date multiple women like they're filling out an elimination bracket, and I know guys who date multiple women because they get easily bored by one set of nipples.More and more people I know prefer dating a bunch of people to one; you can be suspended in a kind of single-but-not animation that used to be reserved for old bachelors of indeterminate sexual orientation, and not be considered a jerky health risk.Ricardus was one of the most prolific and respected coaches in the men’s dating advice industry. Ricardus is currently retired from the dating advice industry.He’s dated some of the planet’s most beautiful women, ranging from a Miss World contestant, to a model for Coca-Cola, to one of “Brazil’s Next Top Models.” His specialty is daytime street stops. This might seem like a sort of defense mechanism against getting too involved, but I like to think of it more as a liberation tool—you assume that they're sleeping with other people, they assume that you're doing the same, and all of a sudden the pressure is off this date. And don't, under any circumstances, bring it up yourself. When you're on a date with someone, they deserve your undivided attention.