Dating a broke man

My friends all thought I was crazy doing this, and then I got him a job and our world began to fall apart.

But before dismissing that broke boy, here are some factors to consider first: Your own finances: First you have to be sure that you can handle an extra cost in your finances.

Too much money makes me uncomfortable, but no money makes me frustrated. I don’t want someone who spends his days sitting on the couch smoking weed and watching sports while bemoaning his lack of funds. I don’t want to be with any more guys who make less money than I do. I’m into doing so inexpensively, but if you can’t even cover your own rent… If he’s broke in his 30s, I worry about his motivation in all areas.

I can’t relate to a guy who has tons of nice things. I take a guy’s lack of money in his adult years as a serious indication of problems in other areas.

The Good Men Project recently pondered, what’s a man without money? I’ve never been one to focus on money — my own or someone else’s — or see it as a path to happiness.

Now that I’m at midlife, however, and helping to get two kids through college, hoping to retire one day, and dealing with the never-ending costs of living (my broken clavicle cost me of money, despite my health insurance, and my car appears to have an electrical problem, no doubt a pricey problem, that I need to deal with ASAP), I think about money a wee bit more.

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