Their openness isn't a license to bed everything in sight—respect and discretion rule. D., professor of psychology at the University of Washington and co-author of The Myth of Monogamy.
negotiate those with the perspective, needs, wants, and values of at least one other person and likely even more.
She's not in an open relationship because she can't decide on one. Depending on the degree to which things heat up, you may have to make decisions about your relationship with her that factor in other people — namely her partner, or others you're dating.
She's not a "cheater." She didn't decide to enter an open relationship because she is fundamentally immoral, a moustache-twirling cartoon villain, or anyone else who is generally careless with the feelings of others. She's opinionated, and don't mistake her for confused.
When Ivy*, a 35-year-old activist, lived in New York, her relationships never seemed to work out.
She dated the way a lot of people date in the city, juggling multiple partners without any real forward movement.