The matching of two complete strangers on e Harmony is an exercise in pure communication.It starts with words on a page (or in our case a computer screen), and can quickly move to the telephone or quiet restaurant.Anyway, one thing I have always done in business and in relationships, is never put weight on the person I was talking to. When you start using “you” statements, the other person may feel attacked or at fault for whatever is going on, and become defensive.
From the beginning he asked that we both always stay open and communicative.I agreed because I know that communication is essential.The last few months we've gotten in so many ridiculous arguments (always over the smallest or dumbest stuff) and it always goes like this; -He immediately loses his temper, no matter how calm I am.One thing people often tell me is that I am diplomatic.It has actually been suggested that I get into politics (more than once), but I think I like writing better. ” Instead of “You never make me feel…” try “I don’t usually feel…” The idea here is to lighten the burden of whatever message you are trying to get across and even take responsibility for it.) some lessons I have learned along the way regarding how to transition thoughts from our minds to someone else’s.