You can browse after the kids are asleep, and what better way to start your day than with a message from a potential date?There are hundreds of sites devoted to connecting people with shared interests — from hiking to wine to bird-watching.How would I ever find an eligible guy to have coffee with — much less date or possibly marry?Re-entering the dating world, especially as a parent, is daunting.
Even with my friends’ willingness to help out with child care, every night out was a scramble to set up who could watch my kids and when I had to be home by their bedtime. My older daughter was away for a few days after Christmas, and he asked me to go out of town with him. I needed so desperately to get a break from my day-to-day life of working at home. “I gave him an out,” I said to my friend a couple of days later while wallowing through the sixth season of “Parenthood.” “Why did you give him an out? I wanted to escape for an hour or two in between some flirty distractions without worrying about whether he’ll be a supportive, healthy, future partner. I had two very real kids at home who came first, took up most of my time and energy, and I didn’t have much to give.
(Caveat: Don’t use photos of you with your kids or of them alone, for their safety.
You never know.) Searching for matches is super simple.
But I learned a few things from my experiences (and my single friends) in my time out there.
Online dating was the most empowering thing I did for myself post-divorce.