He dates men and women, both transgender and cisgender (a term for people who aren't trans).
After La Mon transitioned from female to male, he didn’t change his gender to “male” on his OKCupid profile; instead, he started a second profile where he identified as “male.” He kept the female profile active because he thinks that some women who typically date other women might also be interested in dating transgender men.
While he has dated some people through the site—it’s where he met the woman he’s seeing—he is frustrated with the limited ways transgender people are able to identify on the site, “because you don’t fit into these little boxes, or the people you’re interested in don’t fit in neat little boxes.” La Mon wasn't alone in his discontent.
Last year, Yeni Sleidi met a software developer named Asher Snyder who was fed up with what he calls the “Tinderification” of online dating.
It is surely not easy to find that ‘someone special’ in your life and when you add HIV / AIDS or any other STD to the equation, it can become much more complicated.
The most practical way to meet others going through the same condition is to meet them on dating sites dedicated solely to such profiles, such as Positive Singles, HIV People Meet and so on.
"We talked to a lot of people, including founders of other dating sites, and gay women we were friends with," Tessler says.
When Tessler decided to start online matchmaking service The Dating Ring two years ago, she couldn't get nearly enough gay women to match with the few gay women who had signed up for the service.
And it's not a problem for gay men; about 70 percent of them report dating someone they met online.
In both profiles he makes it clear that he is “a trans guy” and that people should “only message me if you’re cool with that.” Part of the need for this complicated negotiation is that OKCupid doesn’t allow users to identify as “transgender”—just “male” or “female.” The site has been in the news this week after cofounder Christian Rudder announced that developers secretly changed some people's compatibility ratings and removed profile photos to learn more about behavior on the site.
While some have criticized OKCupid for showing people false or manipulated content as an experiment, the site's failure to accommodate transgender users may be a larger and more long-standing ethical dilemma.
If you wear glasses or are into people who do, try Spex, for example. But whether you’re after a meaningful relationship or just some casual dates, there’s an almost overwhelming number of dating apps from which to choose nowadays.
We set ourselves the challenge of trying as many as we could over the course of six weeks.