Of cooking meals in a kitchen full of children, and building traditions, and holding hands through the hard times.
Of growing old together, and enjoying grandchildren, and kissing each other goodbye as we left this world for something better.
I remember taking all of these risks while I was single (except Speed Dating as there was never that option presented).
I get the privilege of being a part of many of you ‘stepping out’ into some unknown and sometimes scary situations. We get a personal trainer at the gym, advance in our education through schooling of all sorts, adventure in new ways, attend conferences for work and spiritual advancement etc, etc, etc, but this area of the heart and relationships can be especially scary and unknown. You’re planting seeds that will grow into something substantial and lasting, but as God likes to do, we can sometimes sow seeds in one field only to have the harvest pop up in a different field.
And I’d like to pass these along to you: things I wish I knew when I started. When I signed up for online dating, I couldn’t believe how addicting it was.
Maybe they will save you a few tears as you navigate your own journey. I forgot to sleep, eat and basically just took a break from it to do my job. And for those of us who don’t get asked out often, it feels amazing to have so many guys messaging you and sending you questions. There’s a weird thing about online dating in which your mind wants to project a “perfect person” image onto your date. Remember, we need to be filling our mind with truth and thinking of things that are true.
Part Post Secret, Twitter and dating blog, Nerve's dating site members post succinct yet telling confessions about their dating and sex lives, such as who they wish would contact them, why they regret not dating someone, or what it takes to earn their romantic attentions.
This year has been my initiation into all things online dating, and let’s just say that the tears factor has been exponential.And for those of you who have done it, know that online dating can challenge your mental and emotional sanity, and to do it in godliness can seem almost impossible. Test him, ask him hard questions, don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. There are so many people out there — yes, other people that love God and love others! Yes, this year I’ve cried more tears about this process than I could have ever imagined, but there is a bright side: In a culture of ever-growing isolation, this tool allows us to be available to guys who are also seeking marriage. Leah is the oldest of four girls, works in the restaurant development world with a degree in Business Management, and enjoys exploring intentional living.But through the endless messaging, countless phone conversations, text messages and date after date after date, I’ve learned a few lessons. Remember, you are getting to know a stranger, so don’t say to yourself, I’m OK if all we do is email for four months. Guys are not clear sometimes when they are not interested, so you have to read their actions and not their words. If they don’t reach out, if they don’t call it a “date,” if they don’t call you, just let it go. I can “put myself out there” in a classy way and be faithful to the desire that God’s given me. Online dating is like walking in a minefield, and we are only a few wrong decisions away from destruction. This includes meaningful relationships, Cross Fit, long-distance running, good books and maybe the occasional piece of dark chocolate.All He asks is we take steps forward into those things in faith, even if it’s the size of a mustard seed, and sometimes those steps look and feel very risky.“I planted, Apolos watered, but God caused the growth.” 1 Corinthians 3:6-8 So, we live with expectancy of God’s goodness invading our lives, but we take the expectations off of the ‘how’ it will take place. At some point in our lives, each of us will face some form of rejection. ‘Some Christians say masturbation is sinful and we must strive to conquer it,’ said the email. I have to admit, it helps me cope with sexual frustration. ’ Something strange happened to me today, so usual that it made me question my reality. Do they see my disability dog and tripod walker before they see me? Importantly does disability act as some kind of deterrent, or are people more opened -minded that I thought they were?