Marrying with a Turkish man depends strongly on the culture he is from.
The culture makes a large difference in the type of marriage ceremony and how the bride is courted.
Turkey as a country is secular with every person having the freedom of religion due to no official religion being chosen, but 99% of people in Turkey are Muslim.
Turkish traditions and culture surrounding the world of love and marriage can be strange to outsiders - and not a little old fashioned.
Oddly, an “I love you” comes quite early on - and it’s followed by romantic gestures to prove the strength of your love.
That could be flowers, gifts or big romantic gestures.
I wondered if they would be anything like American men, the only type I knew, or if the culture would alter their personality completely.
I had heard stories of getting lots of extra attention from men if you were naturally blonde or red-headed, but that seemed normal since those are very distinct foreign looks.
I didn’t date much in high school or at university, and I wasn’t given much attention by men. I am a self-proclaimed bookworm and nerd to the core, so nothing could keep me from the gorgeous university libraries or research lounges.
We explore dating, engagement, love and marriage in Turkey and all its glorious variety. But in Turkey's more rural communities the old traditions still live on: arranged marriages, strange rituals like womens’ single status being “advertised” with an empty bottle on the roof of a house (a man would knock the bottle off in order to be assessed for marriage suitability - by the woman’s father, of course).
In general, even in larger, less conservative cities, dating is a serious enterprise, and there isn’t a lot of casual dating going on.
So if you are involved in a profession where you spend long hours with male co-workers, are out for most nights or touring in other towns, you can expect a Turkish male partner to disapprove.
Traditional notions about gender roles may also extend towards how much women in their family should earn, how they should spend and how far they should take family decisions.